On Sat, 5 Apr 2008 00:06:09 -0800, "Superman Hughes Troll and s***
bag" <BillHughes@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
Beyond:
The nature of narcissists' personality disorder is so profound and so
primitive that narcissists damage virtually everyone who comes into
contact with them. They hurt their children in ways that are hardly
imaginable to anyone who hasn't been there. Narcissists elicit
profound and primitive wrath and hostility from sane and stable
people. This damages the social fabric by alienating the very people
who might possibly be able to counterbalance the narcissists' malign
influences.
The children and other victims of narcissists often seek psychotherapy
to come to terms with the damage suffered at the hands of narcissists.
Melissa's Therapy FAQ may be of interest to people considering
entering psychotherapy. I have links to some online discussion and
sup****t groups on another page.
Narcissists are generally not candidates for conventional analytical
treatment, since psychological analysis is a dialogue and narcissism
is a soliloquy. Because of narcissists' incapacity for genuine
relation****p, their treatment tends to be of the "Band-Aid" variety
that deals with specific acute difficulties, such as depression, which
can be treated with drugs. Part of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
is the conviction is that "I'm okay, it's everybody else who's not
okay," so narcissists rarely seek treatment voluntarily. Some wait
until they are in such bad shape that they require hospitalization.
Because narcissists' self-image is so scanty and fragile, they depend
on the reflection of themselves in others' perception to be aware of
themselves; sometimes it is really as if these people do not have
bodies, have no real material existence. Therefore, social isolation,
such as comes following the loss of a job, the failure of a marriage,
or the alienation of friends and family, has swift and terrible
effects on narcissists. Their thinking quickly deteriorates into
chaotic incoherency and disorganization. For this reason, when they do
receive treatment, the therapists' first order of business is to
restore and fortify the narcissists' ego defenses -- i.e., the
therapist must help the narcissist recover the habitual grandiose and
self-obsessed self-image. When reasonably recovered, the narcissist
usually leaves therapy before any work can be done on the underlying
personality disorder.
--
“A winner makes commitment. A loser makes promises.”
“The path of least resistance is the path of the loser.”
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