A Genuine Unadulterated Loser, Lardwellyn W. (Bill) Hughes III

On Sat, 5 Apr 2008 01:42:07 -0800,  "Superman Hughes Troll and s***
bag" <BillHughes@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:

self-absorbed:


As mentioned above, a malignant narcissist is fixated 100% of the time
on his image. To the exclusion of virtually all other sensation —
sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and feelings. In other words, he is
absorbed in/by his image. 

Our brains are programmed to "learn" what we pay little or no
attention to. They adapt over time to filtering this type of
information. A good example is background noise. There is probably
plenty of background noise in the room you're in right now, but you
were unaware of hearing it until I called it to consciousness by
mentioning it. 

Aren't you glad your brain has learned to filter it out? Otherwise
you'd be distracted by every fly that buzzed. You'd never be able to
focus on anything, because every passing car on the street outside
would distract you. 

So, what happens when a person with narcissistic personality disorder
willfully remains in a world of Pretend, trying to pay attention only
to what he wants to see = his reflected image in others interacting
with him? He is fixated on that reflection of his. Preoccupied with
it. He deliberately pays little or no attention to anything else — no
attention to those other annoying sights and sounds that distract him
from his image = false self. 

He goes through life trying to put all other things out of his mind as
much as possible. Especially things he must pretend are beneath his
notice, like you. So, though he doesn't mind watching geese and
squirrels when there are no mirrors around, he always willfully blocks
out things like the sound of your voice and the sight of your face
(all he wants to see is his reflection there, not your face). 

Can you see how such a person actually trains their brain to
malfunction? He trains his brain to "tune out" that sort of sensory
information right along with the sensory information it's supposed to
tune out, like the background noise, the picture on the wall behind
you, the pressure of his chair on his butt. 

The result is that a narcissist is permanently in an almost autistic
state of self-absorption. He misses an astoni****ng amount of what's
right before his eyes. 

For example, a narcissist often fails to notice even a drastic change
in the weather outside. My most memorable observation of this occurred
while I was getting hectically blabbed at by a narcissistic woman who
thought I should be interested in every mundane thing she had to do
that day. A few errands and a trip to the grocery store. Oh, she was
so busy, busy, busy and these household chores were so demanding.
Especially on this gloomy day in the rain. 

My jaw dropped, because we were standing next to a bank of huge
windows, showing that the sky had cleared a couple hours ago and that
the sun was brilliantly ****ning. 

Over time, it becomes truly hard for a narcissist to focus on anything
but the type of information he normally wants. He may go to a drug
store, for example, and be unable to focus well enough to find the
product he wants among the others on the shelf. 

And as for things he really wants to block out, like what other people
are saying to him, forget it. Try as he may, he can't tune in that
signal well enough to focus on whether they are telling him to get red
wine or white for supper. 

Tip: Don't say, "Don't get red wine." Don't even say the word red if
red wine is what you DON'T want. Just write him a note like you would
for a little child, and be done with it. 

Joanna Ashmun has noticed the same phenomenon: 

 I have observed very closely some narcissists I've loved, and their
inability to pay attention when someone else is talking is so striking
that it has often seemed to me that they have neurological problems
that affect their cognitive functioning.  
  
    

Since the narcissist identifies with his image, his absorption in it
is self-absorption. It's like absorption in a book or a computer or
television screen. People with good power of concentration can become
absorbed in thought. In fact, to some degree, we are always absorbed
in whatever we are paying attention to. 

Our ability to become absorbed enables us to focus, or concentrate.
Great tennis players, for example, re****t being so absorbed in the
approaching ball, that it actually seems to grow larger, filling their
field of view. The result is — whack — a beautifully heavy shot right
off dead center on the strings. 

Our brains accomplish this focus by filtering out 99% of the
information they receive and diverting it to areas in unconscious
zones. There, it does not distract us. For example, that's what your
brain is doing right now with the sensation of your butt pressing down
on the chair you're sitting in. Right? You were unaware of that
sensation, until I mentioned it. Then it instantly leapt to
consciousness. That's because the brain is a relational database that
immediately retrieved that information, calling it to consciousness
when it was referenced. 
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“A winner makes commitment. A loser makes promises.”

“The path of least resistance is the path of the loser.”