A Genuine Unadulterated Loser, Lardwellyn W. (Bill) Hughes III

On Sat, 5 Apr 2008 01:42:35 -0800, "Superman Hughes Troll and s***
bag" <BillHughes@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:

Control by Temper Tantrum:


Let's pretend you're a steer and I'm a cowboy. I am peaceable enough
when you're doing what I want. That is, mainly, when your behavior is
in the direction I want. Due north, toward Kansas. 

But when you get out of line, I throw a temper tantrum. That is, I
ride my big horse at you, waving that big, attention-getting thing
(otherwise on my head) at you, yipping and yelling and making other
loud, sharp, threatening noises and whistles at you. I may even
brandish my lasso at you. If necessary, I will cut you off. But
usually that isn't necessary, because the moment you see me start to
act up, you just veer back into the right direction. Due north, toward
Kansas. 

The fancy name for that trick is "behavior modification," through
"negative reinforcement." 

It's what you housebreak your puppy with. It works like this: if Puppy
does something other than what is wanted, make him miserable. You
know, loud noises, scowls, nasty tone, antic and threatening gestures
— a temper tantrum. Just make his whole little world totally
obnoxious. 

When, by chance, he happens to do what you want, give "positive
reinforcement" by making his existence pure bliss. 

Wouldn't you give in and develop a preference for pooping and piddling
outside? 

Here's another example, when training Mamma, point at a candy bar in
the grocery store. The moment she starts to say "No" erupt into
screaming and bawling as loud as you can so Mamma fears that everyone
in the store thinks she's beating you. 

Then the instant she hands you that candy bar, break off
mid-"WAAAAAH!" and burst into the biggest, cutest, sweetest smile she
ever saw. 

She may be slow, but she'll learn. 

Note that the temper tantrum in each case is a put-on. Yes, Cowboy may
be a little ticked off at Steer, and you may be a little ticked off at
Puppy, but not that ticked off. Your act is just a grossly exaggerated
and menacing display of displeasure that unnerves the object and makes
him anxious to turn it off and avoid triggering future replays. 

Even a spoiled three-year-old child's temper tantrums are put-ons.
For, they occur exactly as I described the one above. The spoiled brat
switches the temper tantrum on and off in the blink of an eye, with no
warm up or cool down. Which means that he isn't that upset over the
candy bar: he's just mask switching. 

He uses the temper tantrum as a stick to regulate Mother's behavior.
The sweet, adorable smile he breaks into when she conforms to his
specifications is just a carrot (positive reinforcement) to reward her
for being a good Mommy by doing what he wants. 

Even infants catch on! They sometimes throw a temper tantrum, not
because they're suffering with hunger or a soiled diaper or for any
other conceivable reason. They just do it to get attention.
This may be hard to hear, but your narcissist is controlling you with
a device no more sophisticated than the good old temper tantrum. 

Throwing temper tantrums to manipulate your behavior is but an aspect
of narcissists doing everything for effect, an aspect of them going
through life playing to mirrors so as to get the wanted looks and
behaviors in reaction. In other words, remember that this is what he's
doing the whole time... 

You get the temper tantrum the moment you aren't doing that, the
moment you aren't playing along with his game of 'Pretend.' In it he
is God. He is the center of your universe as well of his own. You are
to be in awe of him, to admire him, to see to it that the King lacks
nothing he needs or wants, and to change his diaper regularly. 

Since all narcissists do 24/7 is play Pretend, and all they want is
for you to play along, they never needed to mature and find other ways
to interact with people. So, they just use . . . and use . . . and use
.. . . and use the temper-tantrum technique. The moment you stray from
his script, he raises an obnoxious ruckus. 

You know what he wants. If not, keep trying things, like you do with a
baby, until you hit on the right thing and the ruckus stops. This is
extortion. Give him what he wants, or he won't let you have any peace.
One thing that will push a narcissist's temper-tantrum button for sure
is objecting to their abuse. You mustn't do that. You must docilely
submit to abuse from God Almighty. In fact, it isn't abuse for God
Almighty to treat you like dirt, because that's what you are relative
to God Almighty, so quit insulting him by expecting him to treat you
as an equal.
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“A winner makes commitment. A loser makes promises.”

“The path of least resistance is the path of the loser.”