A Genuine Unadulterated Loser, Lardwellyn W. (Bill) Hughes III

On Thu, 3 Apr 2008 19:11:00 -0800,  "Superman Hughes Troll and s***
bag" <BillHughes@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:

What is NPD



"NPD" stands for "narcissistic personality disorder." It is not mere
"narcissism" in the usual sense of the word. To distinguish it from
that, the term "malignant narcissism" has been coined for NPD. 

Narcissism is usually defined as self-love. Usually the term bears the
negative connotation of excessive self-love (whatever that is), due to
inflated self-esteem. This can happen when fame or fortune goes to
person's head. The result is self-infatuation rather than a healthy
self-love — something more akin to self-wor****p, a sense of
entitlement, an exaggerated sense of self-im****tance, delusions of
grandeur. 

Yet even this "excessive" narcissism, as unlikable and inconsiderate
as it may be, isn't what we're talking about here. It isn't malignant.
It isn't a personality disorder. It isn't even a character disorder.
It's just a personality trait. 

Malignant narcissism is perverted self-love. A malignant narcissist
doesn't just exalt himself: he tears down others as a way to seem to
exalt himself. 

Tearing down others harms them, either materially or morally or both
ways. 

Since tearing down others harms them — and for no natural or even real
motive (i.e., self-defense, retaliation, or competition for the last
loaf of bread on earth) — this desire to bring others low is a desire
to harm them. That is NOT goodwill; it is ill will, malevolence =
pure, unadulterated malice. 

Sorry, there's just no getting around that fact. 

Therefore, the flip-side of the malignant narcissist's malignant
self-love is malice toward others, a desire to malign them, humiliate
them, bring them low, degrade them. Therein lies the malignance. At
its core is pathological envy. 

NPD is legally classified as a character disorder, and many
authorities agree — disputing its classification as a personality
disorder. But the (American) Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of
Mental Disorders (DSM-IV-TR, a handbook mental health professionals
use to diagnose mental disorders) lists it as a personality disorder. 

The difference between a narcissistic personality and a
narcissistically disordered personality may not be evident to the
casual observer, but a chasm lies between narcissism and malignant
narcissism, because the difference is the difference between good will
and ill will. 

The superficial similarity is due to malignant narcissism being a
psychological complex. Complex comes from the Latin word that means
"folded back upon itself" or "played backwards." Like an inferiority
complex, which is an ingrained sense of inferiority "played backwards"
to come off as a superiority act. The superiority act is just "playing
Pretend." It's put on to compensate for the sense of inferiority, to
remain in denial of it. 

Malignant narcissists have an inferiority complex. So, their
narcissism is a compensatory egomania. It is caused by shame and is
low esteem in disguise. Quite the opposite of someone who just has a
big head. 

 Is a narcissist aware of his true feelings about himself? That's a
moot point. The mind can repress knowledge and feelings to the
subconscious level. But those subconscious thoughts and feelings drive
behavior nonetheless. What's more, the experiences of daily life
constantly call them to consciousness on us by "reminding" us of them.
  So, when a person wants to remain in denial about something, he or
she must (a) act out a contrary fantasy and (b) keep distracted with
trivia that couldn't possibly remind them of what they wish to unknow.
The more forcefully they act out their contrary fantasy (the more
ridiculously it flies in the face of reality), the harder they're
trying to keep the repressed truth buried in the subconscious by these
exertions.  
 
  So, is a narcissist aware of his true feelings about himself? At
some unwanted moments of self-awareness yes, but most of the time no.
Nonetheless, at all times, those true feelings about himself are
what's driving his behavior. And that superficial act he hides them
behind is just that — nothing but an act, a hollow act.  
 
That underlying shame and self-loathing is what makes a malignant
narcissist malignant. His or her pathological envy is born of shame,
shame narcissists scrape off themselves and smear on others. 

In other words, narcissists try to transfer the pain of their shame to
you. As though they can rub it off on you. And, again, the desire to
shame/humiliate others is malevolence. 

No amount of intellectualizing to fog that truth in fuzzy abstractions
changes that fact. 

Therefore, whereas narcissistic-but-normal people have big heads,
malignant narcissists actually think little of themselves. They have
no self-confidence. They don't think they can win fair and square.
They don't think they can achieve anything or live up to moral
standards. They have no self-respect, despite their elaborate
play-acting to the contrary. In fact, the thicker they put it on, the
less they think of themselves. 

Consider the consequences of these attitudes. 

  The malignant narcissist has indelibly stamped into his brain the
impression that he is somehow defective, a reject, a kind of
Quasimodo. So, throughout his life he finds himself surrounded in a
world of people who aren't.  
 
  Since narcissists don't think they can measure-up the legitimate way
— through effort and excellence — they must cheat. That is, to be
greater than others, they don't strive to be: they just tear their
betters down.  
 
  Their lack of self-respect is even more damning. Because of it,
nothing is beneath them. No lie is too mean to tell. No trick is too
lowdown, dirty, and rotten to play. Things you or I couldn't stoop to,
because sinking to that level would make us feel as though we are
wallowing ****d on our bellies in sewage, narcissists glory in like
mud-wallowing hogs. Ironic, isn't it? that such deep, unbearable shame
makes one shameless? But it does.  
 
  So, your malignant narcissist has the mentality of a rapist.
Quasimodo fixes his world (one in which everyone else puts him to
shame) by tearing them down off their pedestals . . . to make them
less than him. The bizarre preferred choice of victim highlights the
motive. The quickest way to draw the evil eye of a narcissist is to
****ne in any way. He will hate you for that like a rapist hates a
twelve-year-old girl for being pure. Like a pedophile hates a child
for being innocent. I knew of a narcissist ordered to remain flat on
his back before surgery for an aneurysm: he gave nothing but
bloodcurdling looks of hatred to everyone who came to see him, simply
for being well and able to stand on their feet!  
 
  This is why every malignant narcissist has two middle names: one is
"Abuser" and the other is "Slanderer."  
 
A mere (non-malignant) narcissist isn't like that. He is just someone
with a big head. Fame and fortune have probably gone to his head. So,
he may be arrogant and haughty, but he doesn't go around tearing
people down off pedestals by slandering and calumniating others to
make himself look better than them. Or by raping them for being purer
than him. A mere narcissist may be obnoxious and disappointing, but he
is not a predator hostile to the happiness, well being, and success of
others. Hurting people doesn't make him feel good. He has human
feelings and can form human relation****ps. He loves his own children
at least and wouldn't dream of hurting them. A malignant narcissist is
far different. 

So, don't confuse NPD (malignant narcissism) with what people usually
mean when they say someone is "narcissistic." Despite the superficial
similarities, there's a world of difference! One is benign; the other
is malignant. 

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“A winner makes commitment. A loser makes promises.”

“The path of least resistance is the path of the loser.”