A Genuine Unadulterated Loser, Lardwellyn W. (Bill) Hughes III

On Sat, 5 Apr 2008 01:43:03 -0800,  "Superman Hughes Troll and s***
bag" <BillHughes@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:

What Makes Narcissists Tick


Narcissism is usually defined as self-love. Usually the term bears the
negative connotation of excessive self-love (whatever that is), due to
inflated self-esteem. This can happen when fame or fortune goes to
person's head. The result is self-infatuation rather than a healthy
self-love — something more akin to self-wor****p, a sense of
entitlement, an exaggerated sense of self-im****tance, delusions of
grandeur.Yet even this "excessive" narcissism, as unlikable as it may
be, isn't what we're talking about here. It isn't malignant. It isn't
a personality disorder. It isn't even a character disorder. It's just
a personality trait. 

The topic here is malignant narcissism. It is an all consuming need
for something, something everyone needs. But the narcissist must have
it all, which means that he or she must take it all away and keep it
all away from you. 

Malignant narcissism is PERVERTED self-love. It is a perverse
pathology ranging along a spectrum from Narcissistic Personality
Disorder (NPD) to psychopathy. All psychopaths are narcissists, but
there is as yet some doubt whether all narcissists are psychopaths.
Most psychopaths never commit a violent crime, or any crime, and the
difference between psychopathy and malignant narcissism is hazy at
best and may be non-existent. 

Underneath, these people are very different from you and I. They pass
for normal but don't think the way normal human beings do. They aren't
acting on normal human premises. So, the normal "rules" of human
interaction don't apply in interactions with a narcissist. 

 For example, if he becomes angry at something you said, you naturally
think that he took it the wrong way and will be appeased by
conciliatory words and expressions from you. But he goes ballistic at
you for trying to appease him. What's going on here?  
 
  

That's what What Makes Narcissists Tick is here to explain. Being a
writer, I feel that I should use my ability to describe and explain
narcissism in a way that is clear and meaningful to the average
person. For, 1-to-3 people in every 20 you meet is a malignant
narcissist. 

Yes, "invariably," someone at the table has to deal with one. So, they
aren't just other people's problem. Virtually all of us encounter them
periodically. You are fortunate if you never end up married to one or
the child of one or at the mercy of one in the workplace (as a climber
or a bullying boss who needs deprogramming). And the collateral damage
these professional destroyers do affects everyone, not just their
prey. 

This doesn't have to happen. There is no reason why they should fool
their superiors into promoting them to positions of great power in
which they may abuse those at their mercy with impunity. There is no
reason why they should fool a whole nation into electing them
President for Life. There is no reason why they should be able to
sucker you into believing the wildest joke-lies they tell about those
they wish to destroy. There is no reason why they should be able to
sell you the Brooklyn Bridge or property in Florida sight unseen. We
have only to notice and NOT blow off the warning signs. 

The best defense is common sense informed and aware of how many people
like this are out there and how tricky they are, so that we exercise
caution in whom we trust. 

My aims are to contribute what I can to the formal understanding of
Narcissistic Personality Disorder and to help those abused, slandered,
or otherwise victimized by a narcissist understand what the heck is
going on. We make much smarter choices when we do ;-) 

This knowledge helps you spot malignant narcissists and shows you
where that narcissist is coming from, which often makes a huge
difference in how you react. 

But I am not here to counsel you. I am not a healthcare professional.
For advice, seek out one in the appropriate field. These are just the
explanations, observations, study and reasoning of one who has had
long experience with narcissists and knows others with such
experience. I have no credentials. I give no sup****t here. I cannot
recommend lawyers. If you want help with a paper, go to an
authoritative source. 

You get no pathologizing of the victim here. No pressure to repress
your feelings as some sort of sin. No accusations of being
codependent. And no junk about forgiving a crime in progress by
someone who put you in Hell and won't let you out. Just practical
information, observations, and analysis about what is going on in the
mirage of a "relation****p" between you and a narcissist. 

Do keep in mind that many normal people have narcissistic traits and
that all people behave narcissistically at times and toward certain
people. Infants and little children naturally go through a
narcissistic stage of development. 

Sensitivity to narcissistic injury is universal, inbred, and healthy.
In fact, normal people are quite likely to respond to narcissistic
abuse by giving a narcissist a dose of his or her own medicine. So,
don't go jumping to conclusions about people. 

A specific behavior, such as ignoring someone, can occur in widely
varying contexts. So, it can be done for many reasons, not just
narcissistic reasons. Therefore, a handful of behaviors common to
narcissists does not a narcissist make. There are few behaviors so
unique to NPD that they should serve as red flags. Usually these
signal behaviors are perplexing, the kind that make you pinch
yourself, because they are the exact opposite of what a any normal
person would do or say in that situation. 

In short, if you have any doubt about whether a person suffers from
Narcissistic Personality Disorder, he or she probably doesn't. Only a
qualified physician can diagnose NPD 

I recommend that you be sure to read the Essence of Narcissism. It
gets at the unifying root of this disease, which is not grandiosity,
the desire to hurt people, or disdain of empathy. All these things
proceed from a need much simpler and more basic. In fact, it's
something everybody needs. Unfortunately, a narcissist never grew up
and learned to share. So he or she MUST HAVE IT ALL and therefore
cannot let you have any. 

Once you understand this avaricious need — once you know what a
narcissist must take away from you and keep away from you — all the
pieces of the perplexing puzzle that is a malignant narcissist fit
together. And once you know what makes a narcissist tick, you will
know what you need to know to make wise decisions. 
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“A winner makes commitment. A loser makes promises.”

“The path of least resistance is the path of the loser.”